In the fast-paced world of modern motherhood, the quest for self-care has become a major topic of discussion.
I’m Mona, your mom mentor, and I’m here to talk to you about the concept of self-care in the context of the unique challenges faced by mothers today.
As societal expectations and parenting dynamics have evolved, so too has the need for a deeper understanding of self-care. Let’s talk about the importance of incorporating self-care into the rhythm of your life as a woman – a mom, wife, friend, and all the other roles you play.
The Evolution of Self-Care
There has been quite a generational shift in attitudes toward self-care in our culture. Think about how your grandmother or great-grandmother used the traditional phrase “suck it up buttercup”.
Today, we have the contemporary mindset that without filling up your own cup as a mom, you’ll be unable to care for your kids and your family properly.
There are also new challenges that you’re faced with as a mom today that your grandmother might not have experienced – greater safety concerns, ever-evolving technology, and the high educational and social demands on our kids.
Could it be that the devil has skipped over stealing and destroying, and is now opting for a direct assault on the peace and security of homes?!
As moms, how do we combat this?
Rhythms, Not Quick Fixes
This is why it’s important to focus on establishing self-care rhythms rather than relying on quick fixes. By integrating self-care into your daily, weekly, or monthly routines, self-care becomes a skill that can be learned and incorporated into your rhythm of motherhood.
When you think of self-care, what comes to mind? I’m sure some of the popular notions of self-care – like binge-watching reality TV or going to a wild girls’ night out came up.
However, it’s important to realize that these types of activities may inadvertently sow seeds of discontentment or negatively impact your mental well-being. They might not actually lead to care of yourself. OOPS!
So, what are some real, lasting, and God-honoring, self-care strategies for moms?
Think about activities that are aligned with your values and goals. Consider habits like diffusing essential oils, creating playlists for calming music, and finding joy in simple tasks. It’s about finding anchor points in your routine, not just sporadic indulgences.
Here are some ideas:
- Devotional Time: Begin or end your day with quiet moments for prayer, meditation, and reading scripture. It’s a soul-nourishing way to connect with God.
- Gratitude Journaling: Reflect on God’s blessings daily. Write down moments of gratitude, acknowledging the goodness in your life.
- Nature Walks: Take a stroll in nature, marveling at God’s creation. It’s an excellent way to clear your mind and find peace.
- Worship Music: Create a playlist of your favorite worship songs.
- Community Engagement: Join a faith-based community or small group for support, encouragement, and spiritual growth.
- Healthy Living: Engage in activities that promote physical health, like exercise, balanced nutrition, and proper rest to honor the body God gave you.
- Creative Expression: Explore creative outlets like painting, writing, or crafting.
- Restful Sabbath: Dedicate a day to rest and worship. Disconnect from daily stresses, spend quality time with family and prioritize your spiritual well-being.
- Acts of Kindness: Participate in acts of kindness and service. Helping others not only reflects God’s love but also brings a sense of fulfillment and purpose.
- Mindfulness Exercises: Practice mindful exercises like deep breathing or guided Christian meditation to center your thoughts on God’s presence.
Remember, the key is to align these self-care practices with your faith, allowing them to deepen your connection with God while rejuvenating your mind, body, and spirit.
Above all, true self-care involves anchoring yourself in Jesus. As you place your identity, expectations, and security in Christ, you make room for a shift in your perspective and a more peaceful motherhood experience.
May these self-care strategies pave the way for a more balanced and fulfilling motherhood experience.
I’m with you, lil’ mumma.
Hugs,
Mona
